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\u2018Cuffing season\u2019 is the term applied to the chillier months, when everyone wants to be in a relationship, so they can cuddle with their partners by the fire while it snows outside.<\/p>\n
Of course, this is the UK, so we\u2019re not likely to have snow until March and the majority of us live in house shares without fireplaces \u2013 but it\u2019s the thought that counts.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s the perfect time of year for wearing cosy socks, drinking hot chocolates or mulled wines, and strolling hand-in-hand through Winter Wonderland, something that only really works if you\u2019re in a relationship.<\/p>\n
So, what are the singletons meant to do? Well, they find a fellow singleton to tie themselves down with for the season, with the relationship coming to an end just in time for a hot girl summer (if you\u2019re so inclined).<\/p>\n
As Metro.co.uk writer Evelyn Richards wrote in her explainer on cuffing season, there\u2019s a timeline to this festive mating dance: \u2018October is the time for \u201ctry-outs\u201d, as you assess your roster of contenders for an autumn-winter mate to cuff yourself to.\u2019<\/p>\n
\u2018You then select your Christmas commitment in November, hunker down from December through to February, and break it off in March.\u2019<\/p>\n
We see it happen around us year-on-year, but why? Is there a reason behind our unending desire to be cuffed? What is the psychology behind wanting a warm body for those cold, cold nights?<\/p>\n
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A study by Lovehoney revealed that at least 76% of Brits wanted to be cuffed in 2021. It also found that, from August to September of that year, internet searches for \u2018cuffing season\u2019 by over 400%. <\/p>\n
Psychologist Lilly Sabir told Lovehoney that there is a social pressure to be in a relationship for the holidays, citing the weather outside as another reason why people want to cuff up. <\/p>\n
Sabir said: \u2018The lack of sunlight, colder temperatures \u2013 and the tendency to hibernate \u2013 can lead us to want more human contact, as we are not outside triggering our Vitamin D levels which can lead to a dip in our moods.\u2019<\/p>\n
As the weather improves in the spring and summer months, the desire for a partner decreases. <\/p>\n
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We asked psychologist Dr Kalanit Ben-Ari about her thoughts on the season. She says that many single people yearn for an emotional, social, and physical connection when it gets colder for a number of reasons.<\/p>\n
\u2018In winter, people tend to produce less serotonin \u2013 a chemical released by your brain to make you happier \u2013 due to lower levels of sunlight exposure,\u2019 she says.<\/p>\n
\u2018People feel the \u201cwinter blues\u201d and try to compensate for it by actively seeking out a relationship.\u2019<\/p>\n
Additionally, testosterone production tends to peak around October and November, offering a biological reason why those with testosterone might like to couple up.<\/p>\n
Dr Ben-Ari continues: \u2018The winter season offers fewer opportunities for outdoor social activities and connection, when single people can go out, meet new people, have fun, and socialise.\u2019<\/p>\n
We therefore spend more time indoors, and fall victim to societal associations of cold weather with hot drinks, snuggling under blankets, and romantic movies.<\/p>\n
Additionally, social stigma and pressure of being in a relationship is definitely a key factor, Dr Ben-Ari confirms. <\/p>\n
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She says: \u2018The Christmas period, followed by New Year and then Valentine\u2019s Day, all emphasise family and relationship connections. This can bring a great deal of loneliness to singles.<\/p>\n
\u2018Christmas parties and family gatherings may create anxiety for singles over showing up alone or being the only person there without a partner, which then leads to relationship-seeking behaviours.\u2019<\/p>\n
Take the film Holidate, which came out on Netflix last year. The entire premise centres on a girl (Emma Roberts) who is constantly pestered to bring a boyfriend to her family\u2019s holiday parties. Fed up with it, she makes a deal with a friend that they\u2019ll be each other\u2019s dates for the holidays in order to get people off their back. <\/p>\n
This is very common for cuffing season. <\/p>\n
Research for dating app Badoo showed that 52% of singles feel pressure to date during cuffing season, but only 30% are actually looking to \u2018settle down\u2019 for the long term \u2013 nearly all of them say that this pressure comes from friends or family, as the people around them are often in relationships. <\/p>\n
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The majority say that their main romantic intention in the winter is to \u2018date casually and have fun\u2019.<\/p>\n
Dr. Ben-Ari says: \u2018Social media provides an added pressure on singles to portray a happy reflection of their lives online. You see only what people want others to see, which is not a true reflection of their relationship.\u2019<\/p>\n
\u2018Scrolling through social media looking at festive, happy photos of couples can be challenging for singles, especially if they would prefer to be in a relationship. It is not about jealousy, it is about longing.\u2019<\/p>\n
Badoo\u2019s research also showed that 45% of the singles studied would settle for somebody they are not 100% sure of or someone they could not see any future with just because of cuffing season. <\/p>\n
Then, from the urgency of cuffing season comes a spring awakening a few months later, when those in a relationship of convenience realise they\u2019re not right for each other \u2013 and inevitably break up.<\/p>\n
Dr Ben-Ari doesn\u2019t believe this is a universal experience, as some people do establish long-term, loving relationships during cuffing season \u2013 even if they didn\u2019t mean to. <\/p>\n
Being single while everyone else is \u2018cuffed\u2019 can be hard, but Dr Ben-Ari advises us to focus more on ourselves than on others.<\/p>\n
She says: \u2018Take some time to focus on yourself, perhaps spending less time on social media and more time to reflect, write in a journal, and connect with yourself and others (such as friends).<\/p>\n
\u2018Make a list of things that bring you joy, that energise you or bring you peace \u2013 and that you can make a conscious effort to do during the winter period.<\/p>\n
\u2018Planning time to connect socially each day can support your wellbeing and lift your mood, especially when it may be low during the winter period.\u2019<\/p>\n
Dr Ben-Ari adds: \u2018Love is all around us, not only in romantic relationships. Open your heart to all the goodness in your life. You are enough, and you have enough.\u2019<\/p>\n