My wife keeps criticising my performance, but I'm not enjoying sex either

DEAR DEIDRE: MY wife keeps criticising my performance in bed and it’s really getting me down.

I’m 46 and she is 42.

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I’m not happy with our sex life, either. She only likes to have sex in the doggy position, but I prefer a bit of variety.

Lately, I can’t seem to orgasm. We’ll keep going for ages, but I never ejaculate.

However, I have no problem when I masturbate.

She says it’s my fault for masturbating too much and she thinks I don’t find her attractive any more. That’s not true.

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Our sex life is becoming a big issue, and it’s making us both miserable.

What can we do to improve things?

DEIDRE SAYS: When sex becomes an issue, it can create a vicious circle.

The more anxious you become, the more likely problems are to occur.

Take intercourse off the menu for a while and concentrate on kissing, cuddling and foreplay.

Some relationship counselling could help. See, 020 7380 1960.

My support pack on Masturbation should also be useful.

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