Mother whose son was fathered by her fertility doctor feels 'misused'

Mother whose son was fathered by infamous fertility doctor Jan Karbaat who covertly used his own sperm to impregnate patients says she feels ‘misused and dirty’ – but claims her son is ‘lucky’ to have up to 200 siblings

  • Lidia Moret, who lives in Benidorm with second husband, is a Dr Karbaat victim
  • First husband had fertility issues so the couple visited Karbaat’s clinic in 1980s
  • Conceived two sons there and Karbaat recommended concealing it from them
  • Lidia told truth after their father died from illness they feared they may inherit
  • Son Peter took DNA test in 2019 and discovered he was Karbaat’s biological son
  • While Peter now has siblings, Lidia says she is the ‘victim’ and feels ‘misused’
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A mother whose eldest son was ‘fathered’ by the infamous fertility doctor Jan Karbaat has spoken out for the first time, admitting she felt ‘misused’ and ‘dirty’ when she discovered his deception.

Lidia Moret, originally from the Netherlands but now living in Benidorm with her second husband Fred, visited the Dutchman’s Blijdorp medical centre in Barendrecht, south of Rotterdam, in the 1980s because her first husband had fertility issues.

She told how Dr Karbaat recommended she and her husband kept quiet about how their two children were conceived. 

When Lidia’s first husband died from stomach cancer, her eldest son, born in January 1982, became anxious that he might inherit the condition from his father.

Lidia Moret, who now lives in Benidorm, visited Jan Karbaat’s Blijdorp medical centre in Barendrecht, south of Rotterdam, in the 1980s, where she conceived her sons. Pictured with her eldest, Peter (right)

Lidia decided to tell her boys the truth about their conception, and in 2019, Peter took a DNA test which revealed he was the biological son of his mother’s doctor, Jan Karbaat.

Speaking on Somethin’ Else’s The Immaculate Deception podcast, Lidia admitted she feels ‘misused’ by the doctor, who died in April 2017 aged 89 and is feared to have fathered up to 200 children without his patients knowing.

Asked if she now feels her pregnancy was ‘tainted’, she told journalist Jenny Kleeman: ‘The feeling’s the same, my children are my children, the situation, what I know now. It’s not nice. I don’t know what to do. What can I do. I feel guilty.

‘If I hadn’t done this, then he wouldn’t have been born, and now he is born and he’s the son of Karbaat.’

Lidia admitted she feels responsible, despite the fact Karbaat deceived her, adding: ‘I feel misused. I felt dirty. 

Lidia decided to tell her sons the truth about their conception, and in 2019, Peter took a DNA test which revealed he was the biological son of his mother’s doctor, Jan Karbaat (pictured)

‘I was in the room and maybe in the next room he make sperm. And then he comes to me… I feel misused. Why, why, why you do that?’ 

Lidia said she feels she is the victim and is ‘isolated and alone’ – while Peter is now ‘lucky’ because he has many siblings he never knew about.

‘I saw him in Rotterdam with his brothers and sisters. He’s so lucky. I’m happy for him because he said he sees things for himself in the other,’ she admitted.

Lidia claimed she had misgivings about Karbaat, after he behaved inappropriately during her appointments, ‘leering’ at her breasts and making comments – but she didn’t report him because she felt she needed him to help her have a baby.

Lidia admitted she feels responsible, despite the fact Karbaat deceived her

When her second son was born, she admitted to thinking he looked ‘nothing like’ Peter and the two boys had very different personalities as they grew up – but she never suspected Karbaat could be his biological father.

After Peter took the DNA test, he rang Lidia in a state. She recalled: ‘He was crying, he said my donor is Karbaat.

‘I hear it and I say no, anyone is OK but not Karbaat. I was shocked and crying and crying. Why?’

Lidia revealed she was raped by a neighbour at the age of eight, and claims her family blamed her for it. They eventually went to the police and moved house, but Lidia said she was always made to feel responsible and ashamed for allowing it to happen to her. 

Her husband Fred told Jenny she feels ‘misused’ by Karbaat in the same way she did following the sexual assault as a child.

‘When she was young, she was also miused by a guy, and it happens again with Karbaat, she feels like that,’ he explained, adding: ‘She is very traumatised with it. Her whole life is a trauma.’ 

Asked why so few mothers who were victims of fertility doctors like Karbaat don’t speak publicly about their experience, Lidia said many keep quiet as their husbands are still alive.

‘The people must know what happened,’ she explained. ‘Always I hear the donor children, the donor children. Oh wait a minute. And the mothers? You hear nothing from the mothers. Nobody.’

When Karbaat’s Rotterdam clinic closed in 2009 by the Dutch government amid reports of irregularities, rumours began circulating about the methods he used to achieve his success. 

The children conceived at the clinic – the Karbaat Kids – began asking difficult questions about what happened to their mothers. 

The controversial case became public after a Dutch court ruled in February 2019 that the results of Karbaat’s DNA test should be made available to parents and children to conduct their own comparisons.

Lidia’s eldest son Peter Liefhebber (pictured) discovered he had dozens of siblings following the revelation about his paternity

Before his death, Karbaat reportedly admitted to having fathered about 60 children in his time at the discredited clinic.

Karbaat later also admitted to mixing sperm from various donors and issuing fraudulent donor documentation, the Dutch daily newspaper NRC reported.

The group of suspected Karbaat children dragged his family to court to force them to release Karbaat’s DNA profile, which was kept locked in a safe.

The Karbaat family’s lawyers had argued that their clients’ right to privacy had to be respected.

‘However, with the judges agreeing to the paternity test, the judge placed the children’s rights above those of Karbaat and his family,’ Defence for Children advisor Iara de Witte said.

‘Now, after years of uncertainty the plaintiffs can finally close a chapter and start processing the fact that they are one of Karbaat’s many descendants.’

Who are the doctors committing fertility fraud?  

Jan Karbaat

Pictured: parents and donor children of Dr Karbaat reacting to news in February that they would be given the results of Karbaat’s DNA test so they could conduct their own comparisons

Jan Karbaat, who died in April 2017 aged 89, is feared to have fathered up to 200 children while working at the Karbaat’s Blijdorp medical centre in Barendrecht, south of Rotterdam.

It is believed over time he helped 6,000 women have over 10,000 children, and it remains unclear how many children are biologically his. 

The court case began in 2017 when 22 children born after their parents underwent treatment at the centre applied for legal help in resolving their true heritage. 

Defence for Children, an organisation representing parents and children born through his now-closed clinic, said DNA tests conducted in February 2019 confirmed 49 children in the case are direct descendants of Karbaat.

Before his death, aged 89, Karbaat reportedly admitted to having fathered about 60 children in his time at the discredited clinic which closed in 2009 amid reports of irregularities.

Karbaat later also admitted to mixing sperm from various donors and issuing fraudulent donor documentation, the Dutch daily newspaper NRC reported. 

Dr. Kim McMorries 

Eve Wiley, 31, was horrified when she discovered her family doctor Dr. Kim McMorries had used his own sperm to inseminate her mother in 1987

Eve Wiley, 31, spent years looking for her father after she learned she was conceived by artificial insemination in 1987. 

Fourteen years ago she traced her mother’s sperm donor Steve Scholl – known as Donor #106 – and over time they’ve built a loving father-daughter relationship. 

But that relationship was rocked when she took genetic history tests on 23andMe and Ancestry.com and learned that her true father was fertility doctor Dr. Kim McMorries.

McMorries had quietly mixed in his sperm with that of the donor after the donor sperm failed to impregnate Wiley’s mother Margo Williams after five tries.

Dr. Kim McMorries has publicly defended his actions and continues to run a fertility clinic 

He used his own sperm that he donated to a sperm bank from his medical school days – and succeeded in getting her pregnant.

Dr. McMorries has now defended his actions, claiming they were ‘acceptable practice for the times.’

‘I had no idea, 33 years ago, the importance of an offspring’s desire to know their biological identity. At that time, the anonymity was supposed to be permanent,’ he added.

In Texas, the act is not considered a crime as the state does not include rape by deception charges. 

Dr. McMorries still runs an obstetrics, gynecology and infertility clinic in Nacogdoches called the Women’s Center. Its website says the clinic offers ‘conservative values with personal health.’

Donald Cline

Donald Cline used his own sperm to artifically inseminate patients without consent throughout the 1970s and ’80s

Donald Cline, an Indiana fertility doctor, who used his own sperm to artificially inseminate dozens of patients without their consent is confirmed to be the father to at least 48 children born in the 1970s and 1980s.

The now-80-year-old has admitted to using his own sperm to inseminate at least 50 unwitting women.

Several of the children conceived as a result have bonded with their half-siblings over the startling discovery that they’re related

Cline was convicted of lying about the inseminations in December 2017.

 

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