A couple's plan to stage a sunrise beach wedding ceremony has not gone down well with their families.
The soon-to-be-groom claims he doesn't think it's "that unreasonable" to expect wedding guests to attend the 5.30am ceremony.
However according the man's anonymous Reddit post the engaged couple's families have told them it's "way too early."
The man posted on the popular Reddit advice thread r/AmItheAsshole, seeking the internet's judgement on the dispute.
In the post , he explains he and his fiancee celebrate their anniversary each year by waking up early and going to the beach to watch the sunrise together.
The tradition meant so much to the couple, they had decided to incorporate it into their wedding.
The man writes: "It's a very special tradition, as we have both overcome a number of personal challenges during our time together, and the symbolism of watching a new day begin is deeply meaningful for us."
The couple's plan is to have a ceremony on the beach beginning at 5.30am, followed by a boozy breakfast.
He claims the owner of a restaurant opposite the beach "loves" the idea and would be happy to open early to accommodate the wedding party.
The couple's guests, however, were less impressed.
While most guests were local, some would need to drive for an hour to get to the early morning wedding ceremony and others were flying in from Canada, the man said.
He wrote: "We've been getting a LOT of backlash from our families about this, who say this is way too early and we need to move the ceremony to a more "normal" time of day. But my fiance and I don't feel like we're asking for anything that unreasonable."
The post has attracted thousands of comments, leaving Redditors divided over whether it was fair to expect guests to attend a dawn wedding.
The most up-voted comment suggested a compromise.
The user suggested the couple have a private ceremony at 5.30am, followed by a second ceremony at a more reasonable time for the guests.
They wrote: "The first one can be just the two of you reciting your vows to each other, or the two of you with a willing officiant and a handful of close friends/relatives who are willing to join.
"If having two ceremonies is too costly and unreasonable, then just do the first option with the two of you only, speaking private vows."
Many backed the suggestion, adding that a private vow exchange would capture the "magic" of the sunrise without the risk of drama from guests disgruntled about being there so early.
Another commenter suggested that attending the early ceremony could be optional for guests who should be assured the couple would not mind if they attended the reception only.
But others poured scorn on the very idea of a sunrise wedding- pointing out bad weather could easily scupper the dream light and ruin the photographs.
Some commenters pointed out the hassle for businesses involved in the early morning wedding plans, such as the hairdresser and makeup artist.
But some felt that the couple should do what they want for their special day.
One commenter wrote: "Too often I have seen the bride and groom burn out accommodating their guests. Enjoy your personal, and meaningful sunrise. Let everyone else enjoy your union at their leisure. Or not."
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