When you find out someone close to you has suffered something traumatic, it can be difficult to find the right words to say.
But more often than not, a simple "I’m so sorry" will suffice.
This was the simple, sympathetic response one woman was hoping to get after confiding in a work colleague that she had recently suffered a miscarriage.
However the response she was met with was far from sympathetic – instead it was cruel and left her a sobbing mess.
The unnamed 24-year-old revealed all in a post on Reddit’s Relationship Advice forum.
She began by explaining that her 50-year-old colleague had been curious as to why she’d been allowed to come in to work late and leave early all week.
The woman decided to tell her that she’d been given lenient working hours due to having a miscarriage.
But she soon discovered that telling her this was a big mistake.
She said: "Me thinking we were friends, confided to her that I had a miscarriage. Her response?
"’I told you you were pregnant! Why the hell are you here? You need to be home! This is why you had the miscarriage! You don’t care about yourself, you’re being selfish when you should be letting your body recover.
"’What is wrong with you? You are being so stupid! You don’t take care of yourself and then you wonder why you had a miscarriage. Come on, really. Who do you think you’re telling this to? I’m a woman! I have gone through things like this! Don’t look surprised if you find you can’t get pregnant after this.’"
Following their conversation the young woman claims she went and "sobbed in the bathroom".
She couldn’t believe someone who was supposed to be her friend had just blamed her for her miscarriage.
She added: "I’m hurt and angry and honestly am not her friend."
The woman decided to move desks to get away from her colleague and the negativity, but she claims her plan backfired and the whole situation has now blown up – with her colleague even filing a complaint against her.
People on Reddit were disgusted by the older woman’s behaviour.
One person replied: "Wow this woman’s behavior is so disgusting. Big hugs to you and I am so sorry for your loss and that you have to deal with petty bull**** on top of it!"
A second person added: "What a cretin. Does she think all pregnant women give up work and sit at home all day once they find out? To say it’s your fault is cruel, ignorant and unforgivable.
"I’m very sorry for your loss, I’ve been there and it’s heartbreaking."
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