As a wedding day approaches, you'd expect the couple to be a little stressed out by all the preparations.
This stress can turn even the nicest of women into a full blown bridezilla – and often they don't realise they are coming across this way.
One bridesmaid has found herself inadvertently dealing with a bride-to-be on the verge of becoming a bridezilla thanks to a very cold-hearted request concerning the upcoming hen party.
The unnamed woman revealed all in a post on Reddit's Bridezilla forum.
She began by explaining that she was having a tough time, because one of her close relatives was currently in the hospital dying of cancer, with only days to live.
"He is my family's only priority right now and we are all devastated, he is suffering awfully and we spend our days in the hospital almost waiting for him to be put out of his misery," she wrote.
"I am supposed to be attending my best friend's hen party. I am the bridesmaid and have arranged it all with the other bridesmaids. I in no way want to attend, I can't think of anything worse right now than hosting a group of guests and acting happy when I've spend the last week crying."
So the woman decided to call her friend and drop hints that she might not be able to make the special ocassion.
But the bride was having none of it.
"She was supportive in the conversation," admits the friend. "But she's not even considering the possibility of me not attending. I am getting annoyed that she won't openly give me the option to do whatever I need to do. I don't want to let her down as she means a lot to me, but I am in no position to support her and her party right now."
People were divided over who was in the wrong, with some suggesting that the bride probably thinks an evening out would do her friend a world of good.
One person said: "Right now she might still think that an evening out would be good for you. Please tell her plainly that you are emotionally exhausted and grieving, and that, while you love and support her, you just can't attend her party. If she is a good friend, she will be disappointed but understanding."
Another commented: "It's totally reasonable of you to skip the hen if you explain you're simply not up for a party."
A third added: "I totally get that her lack of empathy is hurtful but maybe she really is wrapped up in her own life and hasn't tried to take a look from your point of view."
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